Obituary

Remembering James Joseph Hayden

Jim Hayden died peacefully at home after “75 good years and two bad weeks.” After taking a fall, Jim spent time at the hospital before coming home to rest. His last words to every person who came into his room, family and staff alike, was some variation of “I love you”, “Thank you for helping me”, or a compliment on how smart, caring, or capable they were. He will be remembered by his friends, family, and clients for his gifts of hospitality, generosity, and kindness to all he met, as well as being a man of integrity who lived by his motto, “Always do the right thing.”

Jim said that he had accomplished everything he set out to do in his life. He attended Grand Rapids Catholic Central High School, graduating in 1962. As a young man he worked at the Postal Service.  He founded his own business, Hayden’s Tax Service, which he headed successfully for over 50 years before passing the torch to the next generation where his legacy continues today. Jim was a lifelong learner, who traveled and read every book he could get his hands on. He is the owner of one of the most extensive collections of President McKinley memorabilia in the country, as well as a vast collection of historical newspapers.  He was inspired by the words of President McKinley, “All a man can hope for during his lifetime is to set an example, and when he is dead, to be an inspiration for history.”

Jim loved and was so very proud of his family. He is survived by his wife of 30 years, Kathleen Hayden; children, Kathy Hayden, Julie (Richard) Wagner, Joseph (Emily) Hayden; step-children, Kelly Queen, Scott (Stephanie) Queen, Kristy (Danny) Hagglund; eight grandchildren; sister, Nancy Wolcott (Jeff Donnelly); as well as many in-laws, nieces and nephews, friends and extended family around the country. He was preceded in death by his parents, Ray and Evelyn Hayden, brother, Bob Hayden, sisters, Marilynn Martin and Doloros Johnson, and dear friend, Bill George.

Family and friends may visit with the family on Sunday, March 1, 2020 from 2-4 pm at Matthysse Kuiper DeGraaf Funeral Home, 4031 Clyde Park SW, Wyoming. There will be a short service celebrating Jim’s life at 4 pm following the visitation.  In lieu of flowers, the family asks that donations be given in Jim’s name to Faith Hospice, as they facilitated his last wish of being able to be cared for at home and spend time with his dog, McKinley.

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As a friend and former colleague of Kathy, I met you once and you were just a wonderful man. My prayers go out to your family in this difficult time. May you all find comfort in the wonderful memories you shared.

— Lindsey Shull

Hayden Family, Sharon and I are deeply sorry for your loss. We will miss Jim's fun and interesting stories that he would tell us as we sat in his office while getting our taxes done. He especially loved talking about his grandchildren. Jim was a great person! Our thoughts and prayers are with you. Sharon and Dave Klomparens

— Dave and Sharon Klomparens

I love you, Uncle Jim.

— Marybeth Armitage

I just opened my e-mail to see the passing of Jim. He has been our tax man since we were 18 years old and went to the Wyoming office. Our daughter Brooke Mackie went to school with Kristy at Grandville and Jim loved to talk about Kristy and all of his family. We just had our taxes done with Bill 2 weeks ago and asked how Jim was doing. So sorry to hear of his passing. We got to know Jim well after 40 years. What a great life he had and will be missed! The Mackies

— Dana and Carla Mackie

Jim was much much more than just a good friend to me. He was a partner in business. He Was my accountant. He was my neighbor. My life if much Better for having known Jim.

— William Waring

We are so sorry for everyone's loss and pray for peace and comfort! Joe, we are here for you if need anything! Your Quality Tree Service Family

— Quality Tree Service of West Michigan, Inc.

Kathy and Joe, please accept our sincerest condolences. Your Father, Jim had been our tax preparer as well as for my grandmother for nearly 40 years. Your family should be very proud of Jim's work ethic,his quiet gentle nature and devotion to you, his family.

— Ted and Mary Kneibel

I only know this loving man through his daughter Kathy, but his values and inspiration continue in his children. My thoughts are with you, Sharon

— Sharon Kuhrt

We missed you at your tax office but Kathy took good care of us. You did a great job for us for over 25 years and always made us feel so comfortable that all was well. Rest In Peace Jim, we miss you.

— Hugh and Judith Simon

So sorry to hear about Jim. He was a good man and we enjoyed knowing him. We are so sorry for your loss. RIP Jim

— Tim and Jerri Craig

Jim, I am sad to hear of your passing. I only saw you once a year for about 10 years before you retired, but you gave my very small small tax return the same attention I'm sure you gave to others that were far more complex than mine. I always felt like you did your work honorably & I could depend on you. Thanks for everything, & my regards to all the historic figures pictured in the newspapers in your office - I am sure you are having quite the gathering!

— Rebecca E Gibson

Prayers to your family. Very good man that took care of my taxes for over 25 years. Always helpful. RIP

— Marvin Barczak

Jim did our income taxes and other business filings for more decades than I can count and we trusted him without question to be super-careful, knowledgeable and completely ethical. He was always such a proud father when we'd ask about his family. My thoughts are with you all at this difficult time.

— Jean Riva

We are truly sorry of Jim's passing. Jim did our taxes for almost 40 years. He helped us through some rough patches along the way and we are forever grateful. He will surely be missed. Prayers for all those he left behind. Jorge & Evelyn (Evie) Torres

— Jorge & Evelyn Torres

Very sad news but also good news to see that Jim had a peaceful passing and a great family around him. He was my trusted tax man for 25 plus years. You'll be missed Jim

— Tom Knol

I haven't seen Jim since High School but growing up in Burton Heights and going to St. Francis school we had plenty of fun together in those early years. May you rest in peace and I'll see you when it's my turn to leave this life.

— gregg edward LARABEL

Shocked and saddened to hear of Jim’s passing, we’re in Florida and unable to attend his service. Jim was a wonderful person and best boss ever, always encouraging and positive. Our prayers and sympathies to the entire Hayden family.

— Dennis and Cindy O’Connor

Our thoughts and prayers are with your family! May you take comfort in all your wonderful memories!

— The Sheldon Family

Vale my Uncle Jim. Always the little brother to Nancy. Our thoughts are with the family & his friends. A life well lived. We will remember his curious mind, work ethic & love for his family. Jennifer & Rudi, Adela, Reggie & Rex Michelson from Australia

— Jennifer Wolcott Michelson

I never had the opportunity to meet you, dear man. but your daughter Kathy is soon to be my neighbor and I promise you I will take good care of her. Please give President McKinley my regards. ~Carol

— Carol Manos

I never had the pleasure of meeting you, dear man. But Kathy will soon be my neighbor and I promise you I'll take care of her. Please give president McKinley my regards. ~Carol

— Carol Manos

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